Gays, bisexuals, and lesbians – I’m talking to you ! Are you sick of trying to find like-minded people on popular dating apps and hookup sites? Then look no further! We’ve taken the time to build a comprehensive list of the top 10 best gay hookup sites we could find. Tried and tested, these sites and apps are all safe, scam-free and will no doubt lead to some extra fun naughtiness. What are you waiting for? Work your way through the list and pick the gay hookup site that works for you.
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What are the best gay hookup sites ?
So, before we get into detail about each platform, I thought I’d give you a little summary of each website / app and who it’s intended for / what’s so great about it. Every one of these gay hookup sites has a different and intriguing quality that will appeal to each of you. Let’s get started.
|Gay Hookup Site||What we love about it|
|GaysTryst||Affordable hookups and lots of functionalities|
|AdultFriendFinder||Large and diverse community|
|Grindr||Very popular, easy to use app|
|Men Nation||Great for quick hookups, and plenty of senior users|
|Alt.com||Perfect for those looking for something unconventional!|
|Scruff||Gay, transgender and bisexual men are all welcome|
|HER||App targeted specifically to women (lesbian / bisexual)|
|BiCupid||Great for those wanted to experiment with a same-sex relationship|
|Adam4Adam||A huge gay social network|
|Hole||The best hookup app for getting fast responses|
|Jack’d||The most inclusive LGBTQIA+ dating app out there|
So now you have an idea of the different platforms, one of them probably stands out to you as a clear winner. Well, now it’s time to give you all a bit more detail on these gay hookup sites: we’ll talk about community, features, pricing and more. Get yourself a coffee and come enjoy yourself!
First on our list of the best gay hookup websites is Gaystryst. This super popular website created in 2016 is sure to help you find whatever you’re looking for in a gay relationship.
Gaystryst is a great gay hookup site that’s been around for a while now. It’s super popular among every demographic of gay man, whatever age or style you’re looking for. The platform is very clearly geared towards more “meaningless” hookups and sex than finding a long term partner, but that doesn’t mean the latter isn’t possible.
Signing up for Gaystryst is 100% free, as is filling in your profile. However, if you want to take advantage of the websites different options and functionalities, you’ll need to take out a subscription.
Some of the functionalities include :
- Multiple options and filters for searching for a partner
- Live webcam chats
- “Flirtcast”, which allows you to send a flirty message to multiple people at once
- Like gallery, which allows you to see who you’ve liked and who likes you
All of these can be unlocked with a premium subscription. Here’s a quick idea of the current pricing for Gaystryst premium :
- A day trial subscription : 0,99 €
- One week : 9,73 € (1,39 € / day)
- One month : 38,49 €
- Three months : 74,97 € (24,99 € / month)
Next up on our list of the best gay hookup sites in none other than AdultFriendFinder, a perfect all-rounder for gays, bisexuals, lesbians and even heteros. Whatever your style and preferences, AdultFriendFinder will help you find a hookup fast with someone you really like.
The reason AdultFriendFinder is so effective is mostly because of its large community : 80 million worldwide users make up the user base of the platform, and many, many of these users are gay, bisexual or bi-curious. AdultFriendFinder is also very targeted towards naughty hookups rather than dating, which helps when it comes to meeting up with someone fast. Sometimes when people are looking for a partner, they’ll want to take their time getting to know you and what makes you tick before meeting up. On AFF, no such issues: we all know why we’re here, right? To get some – and fast. No messing around, if you’re in with a shot, it’s likely that a hookup isn’t far off.
The website is easy to use and very sleek, with a basic design similar to most other hookup sites. The platform is literally bursting with hot and exciting features, such as live webcams, galleries of naughty pictures, and there’s even a “sex academy” to help those of you who may be a little nervous or shy in the sack !
Unfortunately, AdultFriendFinders free account doesn’t allow you to do much – if you want to start chatting and using all the website’s features, you’ll need to upgrade to a premium account. The good news is, premium accounts are pretty affordable if you sign up for a longer period of time. Here’s a summary of the pricing :
- 1-month subscription : €29.95 / month
- 3-month subscription : €25.95 / month (total : €77.85)
- 6-month subscription : €14.95 / month (total : €179.40)
Read our full review of AdultFriendFinder for more details on why it’s one of our favourite hookup apps.
Well, this is probably the worst-kept secret in the world of gay hookups, but we couldn’t exactly just skip past Grindr. Grindr is a fantastic gay hookup app that has taken the community by storm as a response to the heterosexual hookup app Tinder.
Grindr is super popular, and has been for many years now for numerous reasons – not least that it’s free to use ! As you can probably tell, Grindr has evolved from a once basic gay-only hookup app to an inclusive dating and hookup social network for all members of the LGBTQIA+ community.
Grindr also prides itself on its security : dating, especially when you’re a minority such as queer or transgender, can be slightly scary. Grindr keeps all of your information (including your location) extremely safe, and blocking users is very simple.
Over 200 million messages are sent on Grindr every single day – if that doesn’t tell you something about how active the community is, I don’t know what will. However, even considering the transformation Grindr has gone thought over the years, it’s still very much focused on hookups rather than dating. If you’re looking for the real deal, Grindr may not be suited to you.
Something we think is really great too is the option to disclose if you are HIV positive on your profile : this won’t necessarily put people off, but goes a long way to ensuring transparency in relationships and keeping everyone safe. As long as you use protection, you have nothing to worry about!
4. Men Nation
Next up, let’s have a chat about Men Nation : this fantastic platform is always in the top players when it comes to gay dating and hookup sites. Let’s find out just what makes it so special!
Let’s begin by saying that MenNation is extremely simple to use, which is always a huge plus. This website has seen many a rework and revamp since it’s inauguration way back in – wait for it – 1996 ! That’s right, MenNation is one of the oldest gay hookup sites out there, sort of like Grindrs grandpa. Speaking of Grandpas – seniors (55+) are very welcome on MenNation, and make up quite a large chunk of the community. Since it’s been around for so long, many older gays are just used to it. Having said that, there are also plenty of younger users from all age ranges online at any one time, so don’t be discouraged if you’re not into older guys!
Registration is free, quick and easy : just fill in a bit of info (such as your sexual orientation, body type, marital status, etc.) and verify your email to get started.
Once you’re in, you’ll notice that MenNation is very similar to AdultFriendFinder – and that’s because they’re run by the same company. We think that’s pretty neat, since you don’t have to worry about the website being sketchy. The website works similarly : you can see other people’s profiles and pictures with a free sign up, but to start chatting you’ll need to upgrade. Here’s the current pricing situation for MenNation:
- 1-month subscription : £25.43 / month
- 3-month subscription : £16.94 / month (total : £50.82)
- 6-month subscription : £12.69 / month (total : £152.33)
Now you may be thinking, “Alright, cool, but what about if I’m looking for something a little different? A little more, perverted?” and if that’s the case, then worry no longer—this next platform has everything you could possibly need when it comes to depravity and fetishes. That’s right, Alt.com is the best hookup site for gays, heteros, bicurious and all other sexual orientations to find a partner with whom they can explore desires they never knew could be so heartily satisfied. Sensitive souls, beware!
Alt.com is the most popular online hookup site for people looking for BDSM, be they hetero couples, gay singles, or anything in between. As you can imagine, the gay community is pretty large on a website like this, and of course, very horny. Alt is super inclusive, which is always a plus in our books. Alt.com is an extremely hardcore and naughty hookup site, not for the faint-hearted!
Alt’s premium subscription, unlike some other websites, has two separate tiers :
- Silver: contact any member, see videos, blogs, galleries and more, all for 22.49 € per month (monthly), or 13.52 € per month for 3 months (total : 40.56 €)
- Gold: get all the silver perks, plus extra content on blogs and videos, as well as a profile bump putting you at the top of search engine results. Gold accounts cost 33.77 € per month (monthly), or 22.54 € per month for 3 months (total : 67.62 €)
Moving on, we’d like to present a gay hookup site that only really serves to tell you about the associated app : Scruff is a free-to-use gay dating social network, with over 20 million users. Available to download on Google Play and on the App Store, it’ll take no time at all to find a match!
Scruff has a lot of great things going for it : there’s a large community of gay men, bisexual men and transgender men, and a relatively low amount of fake profiles. Scruff is aimed primarily at dating and long term relationships, and describes itself as a dating app. However, plenty of men use it for hookups too! But the fact that it’s easy to find something more long-term is what makes it different from Grindr. If you want to chat to any user, simply send him a “woof”, and he’ll be alerted to the fact that you’re interested.
Anyone and everyone can send messages, which is pretty awesome – however if you want to subscribe to a premium account (mostly to avoid ads and to unlock anonymous browsing), you can of course do so for 5 € a month.
So now we’ve already mentioned a few apps and sites that are only for gay men, I feel like we should give one to the ladies! Without further ado, here’s our favourite lesbian hookup app : HER. This fantastic app is the number one solution for women seeking women, be that for dating or a one night stand. Let’s take a closer look at what HER is all about.
First off, it’s worth mentioning that cis men are not allowed to create a profile on HER. It is primarily aimed at lesbians, bisexuals and trans women. With over 10 million users, it is the most popular and widely used women only dating / hookup app.
The basic features of the app are all free, and you can use it limitlessly to talk to women all over the globe. However, much like with Scruff, you can pay for a premium subscription if you’re interested in some extra perks. These perks include, but are not limited to: no ads, seeing who’s online, filtering by sexuality, and hiding your identity when browsing.
Her premium comes in two forms : the more exclusive one with more perks costs $24.99 per month or $89.99 for 12 months, and the cheaper option is priced at $14.99 per month or $59.99 for 12 months.
So there’s apps for gay men, apps for lesbians, but what about our beloved bisexuals, and their bicurious friends? Well, that’s exactly who BiCupid is for! This platform is designed with bisexuals in mind, and with over 2 million active members, you’re sure to find a partner pretty quickly. Let’s talk about BiCupid!
BiCupid is, unlike HER, primarily used to hookups and one-night-stands, by couples, bisexuals, and bicurious people looking for a good time. It’s extremely popular, and has a really good interface, which definitely comes into play when picking a gay hookup site.
On BiCupid, you’ll find dating tips, extensive search filters, and of course, plenty of sexy people to get chatting to! However, to get full access to all these features, BiCupid does require a premium subscription.
- For one month of BiCupid Premium, you’ll be charged $29.95.
- For two months, you’ll be charged $59.95
- And for 3 months, you’ll be charged $95.95
Next up, a very popular gay dating and hookup site aimed at gay men looking for some fun : Adam4Adam. This platform is designed and built specifically for gay men, and even more specifically for hot hookups! Not to say that it’s not good for dating too – which it is.
Something we really love about Adam4Adam is that although it’s aimed at gay men, it’s very inclusive : all queer folks are welcome to sign up and make use of the extensive filters. You can search by body type, sexuality, gender, height, ethnicity, and loads more. It’s pretty thorough on that front!
Another thing Adam4Adam does right is the variety of fun features: you’ll find loads of great stuff on the site, such as live webcams, porn movies, and even a “sex shop” where you can buy sex toys, as well as used underwear! What could possibly be more exciting? Well i’ll tell you what – it’s 100% free – that’s right, all of Adam4Adams features are free to use! This is pretty unique for a website of this calibre, and can only be explained by the availability of the shop that generates the website a good amount of revenue.
Moving on, let’s talk about a gay hookup site that definitely doesn’t beat around the bush or mince it’s words – you got it, we’re talking about Hole. Hole is mainly an app available for all devices, that focuses on finding fast gay hookups. That’s exactly why you’re here, is it not? Let’s find out more about this exciting app.
So the first thing you’ll notice about Hole is, as we’ve already said, it doesn’t waste time. We all know why we’re here, and what we’re looking for. It’s super simple and has no extra gadgets or gizmos : basically all you have to do is upload a clear picture of yourself, and then check out the pictures uploaded by gay men in your area. They’ll also be able to check you out. If anyone catches your eye, send them a quick like, and they might like you back. A mutual like opens up the possibility for chatting, and with that, meeting up. All chats on Hole are 100% anonymous.
Hole deletes all chats after 24 hours of inactivity, so be quick when deciding who to flirt with! This along with the anonymity rule really do lend themselves to the app being safe and secure, but also very targeted to one night stands – Hole explicity mentions that it is NOT a dating app.
Hole is not a free app, even if the inital download is. To continue using the app after your 7 day free trial, you’ll need a premium subscription :
- For one week, you’ll pay $14.99
- For one month, you’ll pay $39.99
- For a whole year, Hole costs $99.99
Lastly, we’d like to talk about a very popular and super inclusive gay hookup site we really love – Jack’d. Possibly the most diverse platform for gay hookups, Jack’d is perfect for those seeking a long term relationship or a fling – either way! So, let’s dive in to the details.
About 5 million members use Jack’d, and among those 5 million members, this app prides itself on everyone being different and unique. There is no website portal, Jack’d is only available as an app sadly – but the app is very simple to use and has a good interface.
Jack’d is aimed primarily at gay and bisexual men, but also opens itself to curious hetero men who want to try something new (as long as they’re open about it). You have to verify your identity to use Jack’d, which, although tiresome, means that once you’re registered, you’re unlikely to recieve any homophobic hate or even come across any fake profiles, which is a huge plus.
Fill in all the fields to complete free registration, verify your identity, and get chatting. Jack’d even has a feature to show you how many messages a user replies to, so you know if they’re super picky not to waste your time!
Jack’d is free to use, but you can upgrade to Jack’d PRO for extra features, such as anonymous browsing, organisation tools for your favourite profiles, image saving, etc. The Pro account costs $9.99 per month and is a subscription-based account.
Here are some answers to a few questions commonly asked about gay hookup sites.
What is a gay hookup site?
A gay hookup site doesn’t have a specific definition, and that’s why we’ve chosen to have a lot of variety in our list. A “hookup” usually denotes a one-night-stand or a fling, but plenty of people want hookups that can evolve into something more, or maybe even a “friends-with-benefits” type situation for the long haul. Whatever you’re looking for, there’s a gay hookup site just for you.
How do I meet gay singles?
The best way to meet gay singles is to sign up for as many gay hookup sites as you can manage. Start by choosing the ones directed at you and what it is you’re seeking, then just sign up for them all. Quantity is key here, so don’t be shy. Make sure your profile is up to date, interesting, and you have a nice profile picture.